Thursday, March 12, 2009

A complement can go a long way

So often people comment that R is a good father, and I must completely agree he is an amazing dad. He really does co-parent with me and I really appreciate that. It is rare though for people to comment on me as a mother, yes I know I am a good mom to Riley but that doesn't mean it isn't nice to hear it sometimes. I find in our society we are all to quick to praise fathers and don't praise mothers nearly as much. We also hold moms to a higher standard than fathers but that isn't the point here.

Yesterday my mother in law called, I try to call her once a week to check in and tell her the newest things going on in Riley's life but I had missed a week so she called us. After telling her about Riley finding his hands and about our most recent trip to do baby yoga, she told me that she thinks R and I are doing a wonderful job raising Riley. That she knows the reason R is so good with Riley is because he has me to watch and copy and that I am a wonderful mother. She also appreciates all I do to keep her as involved as she can be with Riley's life.

This means so much to me, we haven't always had the best relationship but I do try very hard to keep her in the loop with everything Riley is doing and what is going on in our lives. It is nice to know my efforts are both recognized and appreciated. I work really hard at trying to be a good mom to Riley so it is nice to know my efforts are paying off and that others think I am doing a good job.

1 comment:

ggop said...

You are a great mom Ariella! I've been reading these posts all along and there is no doubt about that at all. I hear you on the dads getting more complements though :-)
Happens to my husband too!