Saturday, October 11, 2008

What a difrence a year makes

About a year ago, I met C. I have blogged about C here and here. Today for the first time since we meet in person a year ago, we saw each other again. I knew OF C long before I actually knew C. She is the SIL of one of R's cousins and is very open about her infertlity, and subsequent adoption. After years of hearing about C, including her pursuit of adoption, we meet face to face at her niece's birthday party last year. I had already known so much about her, but she knew nothing about me. When she asked me about kids, I broke down and cried, and for the rest of the day she stuck by my side, keeping me company and away from R's relatives who don't get it.


Today it was like seeing a friend I hadn't seen since high school only better. C became an email pall after last October and was a person of strength and encouragement in a way only those who have been down the path further than you have can be. Now C is due around Thanksgiving with her second son, the first being from a domestic adoption, to say she never expected to be one of "those" people is an understatement given she went through 10 years of infertility and 2 m/c. She is having a little boy. I had been looking forward to today for weeks not because I was all that thrilled about a 5yr old B-day party but because C would be there. C knew about my pg before most people, about 4 weeks and I knew about her's before her siblings too.

C is one of those people who can say "Isn't God great" and I don't feel like she is talking down to me. Her faith is amazing, honest and real. She is an amazing woman, and mother and her faith inspires me. Today we looked at each other both of us with tears in our eyes and said "What a difference a year makes, God is great" and it was like talking to someone who could see my soul. Today I felt a little tiny stitch mend a part of the hole infertility left, the whole will never mend all the way, but I have learned that is okay and to happy about the stitch. Today I learned the difference a year can make.

7 comments:

~Jess said...

It's truly wonderful that you have someone IRL that gets it and who you can have such a connection with. I'm glad that you had such a great time with C.

ggop said...

What a heartwarming story! Its great she is also pregnant and your good friend through the ups and downs of IF.

Lisa said...

What a sweet post! But, I was particularly struck by "...person of strength and encouragement in a way only those who have been down the path further than you have can be." I don't know if this makes sense, but, thank you for that line! It reminds me of the role I can be playing during this time which has been so difficult for me.

Maria (MKC101103) said...

That was a wonderful post! I'm so happy you have someone like C in your life to truly share in the joys you are both experience now!

Sasha & Mark said...

I'm so happy for you and C-- you both deserve every happiness!

Echloe said...

What a nice post. Reading this made me feel some hope for a year from now. It is so wonderful that you have someone like that in your life.

Jill said...

I'm glad that you have a friend that really seems to understand you. That's really hard to find. Embrace it!!