Thursday, August 20, 2009

Letting Go

Sorry for not being here in a while. I have a few things on my mind so there are going to be a bunch of short posts in the next few days.

Letting Go

I am good about not freaking on developmental milestones, except one, crawling! Riley is not crawling and it is making me worry. It isn't about his age, 8 months, but the fact that he was a c-section baby. One of the BIG benefits of coming out the "right way" is that getting squeezed increases the connection of the left and right hemispheres of the brain. Crawling is a skill that further increases that connection. My mommy guilt needs him to crawl soon, I still hate my c-section, still feel jiped out of one of the most amazing things on earth, and I still have LOTS of guilt that if I had done a b or c differently the c-section could have been avoided. Told you I had a lot of mommy guilt on the subject. I have wanted him to crawl so that those two parts of the brain are well connected, and to lessen my own guilt.

But today I am letting it go. I know I will be really excited and thrilled when it happens but I am starting to feel like I am waiting for Mr. Right to come along. You know how when you are single and looking for mr. right everyone says he will come along when you least expect it. Well that was most defiantly the case for me, and I am hoping by letting go my obsession with crawling he masters it soon.


Ava said...

I hear you on this one. It's especially hard when you see other kiddos that are younger who have already met the milestones you're still waiting on.
If it makes you feel any better, G (a c/s baby himself) crawled at 10.5m and did it like a pro.
You're at 8 and Riley's already doing things G wasn't at that age. You also have to remember to consider Riley's adjusted age (7m). Give him time -- he'll do it for you too.
... but again... I know it's really frustrating.

~Jess said...

Hang in there...I'm sure he'll be crawling the PP mentioned they all hit their milestones at different times.

Jen said...

He will get it! He's just going to do it on his terms!

ggop said...

Hi Ariella,
Had a C section in Dec too so I get what you mean. Thanks for the tip on the connections between hemispheres. :-( We all beat ourselves up a lot!

I'm sure Riley will crawl just when he is ready. Talking of Baby Olympics, here is a post you will get a chuckle out of..

Alison said...

K was a vaginal birth baby and didn't start crawling until she was in her 9th month. R isn't behind in the least! :)

prashant said...

I know it's really frustrating.

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